tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.comments2022-05-09T23:23:22.350-07:00What do you mean by sexUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger127125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-21280859062747295672016-11-11T20:30:08.812-08:002016-11-11T20:30:08.812-08:00Wow, cool and interesting. Thank you for sharing!Wow, cool and interesting. Thank you for sharing!Trixnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-7600195334839723492016-11-08T17:14:34.916-08:002016-11-08T17:14:34.916-08:00Im elated to see someone else experience the EXACT...Im elated to see someone else experience the EXACT SAME THING that I have experienced for as long as I can remember. I know when a man/woman is sexually attracted to me and EXACTLY like you I see myself as they see me. It truly does turn me on and in my younger promiscuous life this has gotten me many "prospects". It was/is like some magnetic force that comes along with images and feelings that you cannot overlook and ignore. Cant even question it because it is a sure thing, every time. This was addictive to me. As a kid, I was so verbally and emotionally abused (being told I was ugly, stupid and had no common sense at all) and this permanently screwed me up. This fueled my 5 year long "power trip" as I call it. By the time I made 30, I was over it. Im now 36 and I still have it. Its actually stronger, but I don't physically act on anything, not even personally "touch myself". These days its so strong I feel like its my duty to relieve these people of the sensations that I vicariously feel as I know Im causing them. I literally feel their arousal, (sometimes even know their thoughts) which in turn stimulates me no matter how far away they are. This is another form of power for me,so to speak, and I almost feel bad but, I don't. So to be fair I limit who I interact with and choose carefully who I feel is "safe" enough to share this.....experience with. No physical sex, just conversation and etc. Im beyond the physical now. Good to know that Im not the only one with this, gift. Thank you so much for sharing Trix! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14773202750768334941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-92210610568818515662016-01-31T20:04:33.595-08:002016-01-31T20:04:33.595-08:00I really appreciate this post. I'm asexual but...I really appreciate this post. I'm asexual but every so often I keep having thoughts like "What if I'm not actually ace? What if I just like the label?" or whatever. I masturbate sometimes, but it's more imagining the sensations than anything else. I never think of anyone specific, I never have any pictures in my head. <br /><br /> You can tell me that asexual means "not attracted to anyone" but I don't know what that MEANS. You put it into words for me. <br /><br />I dunno why I end up Googling "what is sexual attraction" every few months in some sort of effort to reassure myself that I'm not just jumping on some bandwagon. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-6367984680976772382015-10-19T22:50:36.604-07:002015-10-19T22:50:36.604-07:00I'm a gay woman, and I've experienced this...I'm a gay woman, and I've experienced this with guys. It fostered false hope for a long time. Interesting feeling. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-30596992515862694012015-09-06T07:59:57.266-07:002015-09-06T07:59:57.266-07:00This post was like a revelation to me. I've re...This post was like a revelation to me. I've read a lot of articles about asexuality, trying to find out if it fits me, but never understood that "sexual attraction" thing and its difference between aesthetic and romantic ones. This question gives me headaches, 'cause I do feel sometimes that weird tingling down there (although it's really weak and can be ignored), and I find certain people attractive and can get very emotional about it, but the strongest it could ever get is "holy crap, he/she is so handsome, I want to kiss him/her". No sex ivolved, not telling that I find all about sex repulsive. So if "sexual attraction" is something you can't confuse with anything else, I guess I am some shade of asexual. Thank you, author, for this post, now it's finally all clear for me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-86814662194610755452014-04-09T18:33:01.018-07:002014-04-09T18:33:01.018-07:00Hi. I've only recently started considering the...Hi. I've only recently started considering the possibility that I may be asexual. I used to think the fact that I've never been sexually attracted to anyone was due to shyness. But really I'm not that shy anymore. I'm 28 years old and have never even come close to having sex. I like to flirt and especially guys seem to be easily attracted to me, but I always pull back when I sense they want to act on it. I masturbate and it used to be great, but not so much anymore. I want to have a satisfying sexual relationship, but I've never met anyone I want to have sex with. What do I do?JolieBellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-19560321356795555932014-02-09T09:50:47.127-08:002014-02-09T09:50:47.127-08:00*Can someone help me?***
This article is probab...*Can someone help me?*** <br />This article is probably the most helpful I have found so far. I'm still trying to figure out what I would be considered objectively; I've always just assumed that the attraction I feel towards people is what is called "sexual" attraction, but I recently discovered the terms aesthetic and romantic attraction, which I think fit what I feel much better. For example, when I see someone I think is very attractive, I never fantasize about having sex with them, instead I literally get a strong urge to draw them XD (and I often do lol). But at the same time, I don't have an aversion to the idea of sex; I occasionally look at porn and masturbate, but never to anyone "real", just an anonymous person who I "love" emotionally. If I ever have a flash of someone real when I'm doing it, it weirds me out and I feel like I am somehow violating them. But I am still unsure because I've never been in a romantic or sexual relationship, even though I'm in college. The closest things that might describe be may be gray-asexuality or demisexuality (because I think I would like sex if it was with someone I really, really trusted emotionally). Also, I've only really had one full-blown crush in my life, and honestly my strongest desire was to hug him. I know labels don't define me, but I am curious as to what an outsider might consider me based on what I have written here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-9837995030859887852013-09-27T13:48:15.789-07:002013-09-27T13:48:15.789-07:00I see sexuality as more of a spectrum really (imag...I see sexuality as more of a spectrum really (imagine a rainbow, no pun intented), probably with hetero at one end leading to bi and then gay and then who <br /><br />knows after that, but in between these basics or maybe more <br /><br />accurately to the side of these basics all sorts of variations, <br /><br />from dressing as nurses, firemen, teddy bears etc. up to s and <br /><br />m, all sorts of fetishes also to people wanting to be treated like <br /><br />babies, not to mention sex toys, right through to bestialty, <br /><br />pedophilia, necrophilia and so on.<br />Obviously some of the things mentioned above are illegal and <br /><br />extremely distastful to folk and I am not condoning anything, I <br /><br />am merely passing a comment.<br />I know and love some people who are gay and bi and indeed <br /><br />until recently never gave the whole issue of sexuality much <br /><br />thought to be honest, indeed I am still new to all this "scene."<br />As I said I am merely passing comment and I certainly dont <br /><br />claim to know everything.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-16544292633621873262013-09-25T19:14:11.690-07:002013-09-25T19:14:11.690-07:00This is fantastic!This is fantastic!Rafaelahttp://bestmemoryfoammattressreviews.us/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-54388457488270482162013-08-13T23:21:06.672-07:002013-08-13T23:21:06.672-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-23687689588617468932013-01-30T11:04:12.350-08:002013-01-30T11:04:12.350-08:00Thank you for sharing all your perspectives. The t...Thank you for sharing all your perspectives. The thought and time and effort you put into this are immense, and immensely helpful, be them questions or answers.Ihnasarimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02967375675131412948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-2541143299252372702012-08-19T23:42:30.380-07:002012-08-19T23:42:30.380-07:00I think for asexuality, having a lack of sexual at...I think for asexuality, having a lack of sexual attraction is key. It's something I never understood because I always thought I was sexually attracted to men, just didn't want to have sex with them lol. But now I realize that sexual attraction is the desire/interest of having sex with this person. I am attracted to men in the sensual/romantic sense. And I don't fantasize about men sexually, just everything leading up to sex lol. I wonder what they call that. It's so enlightening to read about asexuality because I had to defend my lack of sexual interest as not being "boy crazy" lol. And I was more excited to kiss and cuddle than bang lol. So, I'm happy that there is more information about asexuality now...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-46433935287051517912012-07-31T23:25:44.837-07:002012-07-31T23:25:44.837-07:00I actually just want to say thank you, to everyone...I actually just want to say thank you, to everyone who posted their stories and questions on this page. I can't quite put into words what I'm thinking right now, but this has helped me accept that part of me, and accept that it's okay not to feel the same as the other people in my (fairly young) age group. <br />I've always had problems interacting with the other teens around me, who are always flirting, talking about sex, and doing a whole other lot of things I just can't quite comprehend. My last relationship was very uncomfortable for me because she put a lot of emphasis on the act (not forcefully, it was just always there). I'm not afraid of 'growing up' or of sex -with the right person-. I'm just not as interested as they are. It's nice to see (for the first time) that other people see things at least a little like I do.<br />Thanks again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-38037564019375870092012-02-28T18:04:56.054-08:002012-02-28T18:04:56.054-08:00What a perfect way to handle that!
I must be sp...What a perfect way to handle that! <br /><br /> I must be spoiled to live in the friendly subculture that I do but was *shocked* at your dad's letter. Of course people will like you the way you really are.Falconnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-58859797397839027162012-02-21T08:55:44.574-08:002012-02-21T08:55:44.574-08:00Hi Hanna, wonderful - yes, please use anything I s...Hi Hanna, wonderful - yes, please use anything I said, and I would love to read your research when it's completed.Trixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02892086097855620183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-36102372253872062202012-02-21T06:37:41.382-08:002012-02-21T06:37:41.382-08:00Hey.
My name is Hanna E. Fjeld.
I am a bachelor s...Hey.<br />My name is Hanna E. Fjeld. <br />I am a bachelor student at the psychology department at NTNU (Norwegian University of science and technology). <br />This spring I am working on my bachelor theses about sensuality and sexuality, with a focus on ”how love relationships and intimacy is experienced by asexual individuals”. <br />I really like how you describe your experiences in your blog, and especially how you write about your view of sex, and intimacy in this piece. <br />Could I use it in my research? <br />And if you are interesting in answering a few question about how it is to be asexual, please contact me at my email: hanna_ef@hotmail.com<br />You will be 100% anonymous, and I would be extremely grateful for your help, on either answering questions, or just letting me use this piece.<br />Regards<br />Hanna.H.Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18050076279082843771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-59855449052566075092012-01-09T07:55:29.567-08:002012-01-09T07:55:29.567-08:00Yes. I get these. Thank you for coining the term.Yes. I get these. Thank you for coining the term.synkariushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10348698458353614342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-62812594245731337162011-12-27T16:13:08.653-08:002011-12-27T16:13:08.653-08:00In the last few months I've come to realize I&...In the last few months I've come to realize I'm asexual, which did take a couple of months for me to think on and accept, but I was very happy once I realized I'm different, and WHY I'm different. I could never look at someone and go, want to have sex with him (or her). Instead I would think, 'pretty' or 'good-looking', and looking was all I ever wanted to do. It was a relief, because family and friends kept saying this was normal, and what I should want these things, but I just never understood it.<br />To me, asexuality means I'm interested in people, but never their bodies. I can like the look of someone, but it's like admiring a painting. I feel emotional attraction, but I would never be tempted to act any further than friendship. It doesn't mean I don't have a sex drive, or even that I don't like porn, because I do. I can even fantasize about having sex, but I never want anything more than fantasy.<br />I also think too much into my interactions with other people. Am I flirting unconsciously? (because I've never actually tried to flirt with anyone) Is he flirting with me? (I can only ever tell when it gets so strong it's actually creepy)<br />I also agree with anonymous (July 3) and ali215. I kind of want the relationship - but really, I think I mainly want the norm for society, what all of my family and friends think I should want.Alynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-32073288700391820992011-12-09T23:45:11.154-08:002011-12-09T23:45:11.154-08:00Your reply letter is AWESOME!Your reply letter is AWESOME!Kaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-27704762364128590142011-11-17T23:40:57.101-08:002011-11-17T23:40:57.101-08:00Awesome, thanks Roshni!Awesome, thanks Roshni!Trixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02892086097855620183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-10401247423685600902011-11-17T22:12:22.178-08:002011-11-17T22:12:22.178-08:00Hi...
I found your blog while googling something....Hi... <br />I found your blog while googling something. And I completely loved it! I love the way you have expressed your opinion about stuff like sex, intimacy, relationships, etc. To be honest, I'm a person who feels a lot like you...I don't really consider myself a woman at heart, even though I may look like one. But people look at me in this weird way when I say that. I'm so glad there are others out there who think like me. I may not be asexual but I don't really feel I'm part of this particular gender. And...I'm not ashamed to admit it! :) Loved this post... great work!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-92151787628534757212011-11-04T09:48:45.696-07:002011-11-04T09:48:45.696-07:00I'm not asexual but recently I've been con...I'm not asexual but recently I've been confused about my feelings for my partner's girlfriend (I'm poly) and I've been trying to figure out whether I fancy her or not. I've been thinking, 'it's how I imagine a crush would feel to an asexual person' in that it has the elements of a crush but without the sexual attraction. Squish! For some reason I feel less confused now that I know a word for it :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-269897631352103612011-11-02T09:43:24.010-07:002011-11-02T09:43:24.010-07:00Thanks Duncan. My dad said, "Although I don&#...Thanks Duncan. My dad said, "Although I don't entirely understand what you are saying, I'm glad you have people in your life who take you as you are. Privately, I do too."Trixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02892086097855620183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-68867937794382502502011-11-02T04:27:55.261-07:002011-11-02T04:27:55.261-07:00I really like this. Well done. The tone of your em...I really like this. Well done. The tone of your email to your dad is friendly and calm. I'm glad you're confident in expressing how you are and I hope your parents reacted well. Hugs!Duncan MacKenziehttp://www.facebook.com/duncan.j.mackenzienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7750563513512612307.post-18002944629308068382011-10-28T13:20:41.143-07:002011-10-28T13:20:41.143-07:00This makes total sense to me! I admit that I don&...This makes total sense to me! I admit that I don't have a lot of knowledge in this area, but I think I'd be in a position similar to the nurse's - I wouldn't know which pronoun to use at first either. I think someone should only take offense to the use of the wrong pronoun if it persists after being corrected. <br /><br />Also, it is ingrained in us to use the pronouns "he" and "she" - trying to change that (at least at this point), is futile. We have been taught that to call a person by a gender-neutral pronoun (it), dehumanizes that person. To a lesser extent, so does saying something like "that person" or some such. Unfortunately, our culture has evolved so that gender-language (and just male/female) assigns more humanity to a person, whereas gender-neutral language removes it to some degree.<br /><br />Further, (to address the sir/ma'am comment) establishments want their clients/customers/patients/etc to feel welcome, honored, or some other state that will make them associate a positive feeling with said establishment, so they'll come back. (Thus the sir/ma'am thing). <br /><br />Just some thoughts. :)Rem Anonnoreply@blogger.com